Which is correct?
- Give the completed form to Sarah or myself.
- Give the completed form to Sarah or I.
- Give the completed form to Sarah or me.
Of course, it’s number 3. But many people actually talk like the examples in the other two. It’s often because they can’t remember the grammar rule once there is more than one person involved. Or they are trying to avoid the spotlight on ‘self’ that comes from me.
Here’s an easy way to figure it out, based on what you DO know.
Simply remove the other person from the sentence.
“Give the completed form to me.” You wouldn’t say “Give the completed form to I.” And most of us wouldn’t say “Give the completed form to myself.” Well, we DO hear people say that, but they sound very ignorant when they do.
Use myself only when you have used I earlier in the same sentence: ‘I am not particularly fond of goat cheese myself‘”
“Please send any comments to me.”
“I entered the comments in the database myself.”
“My husband and I are going on holiday.” (Not “My husband and me are… ” , not “My husband and myself are…”)
If the word is the object of a preposition (for example, to me, from me, about me, etc) then use me. I hear SO many people say, “It meant so much to my husband and I.”
It meant so much to I?
Ouch.